When you think about your most precious relationship - what defines it?
How about: acceptance, being there for each other, support, trust, connection, fun, truth, freedom, wanting to be with each other, generosity, commitment, love, respect, gratitude, maybe sensuality….?
But, how would you feel if someone you were in a relationship with wanted nothing to do with you? They cringed everytime you called. Or perhaps they didn’t pick up when they saw it was you on their caller ID. They said you were important, but they acted like they really didn’t care that much about you. They didn’t trust you and tried to get rid of you. They never talked about you with family and friends.
Pretty weird relationship, huh? How long would that last?
Anything you have a interraction with on a daily basis is something you have a relationship with. People, animals, your business, food, money……yes, money!
How’s your relationship with money? Is it a precious relationship? Or more like the weird one above?
Does money want to stick around? If not, do you blame it?
Here are 5 ways to upgrade your relationship with money so it actually WANTS to stick around.
1. Imagine money being your new best friend or lover. Take out your journal and describe in as much detail as possible what does this new relationship look like, and feel like. How do you feel when he/she shows up? How do you speak about him?
2. How will you nurture this new relationship? How will you treat it and feel thankful for all it provides for you? This is a brand new relationship and you may not have ever thought about this before. You’re going to be paying a lot of attention to it. You get to choose how you’ll interact going forward.
Do you avoid looking at your bank account because you don’t want to know? How do you feel when you do log into your account, or look at your bank statement? Is this how you really want to treat your new best friend?
3. Observe what you say about money, even in casual conversations? Whenever you talk about money you’re affirming your reality, and you’ll attract more of the same. What would you like to affirm for yourself? What you’ve been saying will tell you a lot about how you’ve created your current situation, and what you’re putting your order into the universe for more of.
4. Observe your interactions when you spend money. Do you feel good about the exchange, or do you feel you had to spend this money? Switch to spending cash so you can make the connection between what you’re giving and receiving here. And the value of that exchange. There’s a wealth of information here to raise your awareness with.
5. Forgive yourself for any thoughts, beliefs, and actions in the past that have contributed to your current financial situation. It’s natural to want to blame external circumstances - the economy, your parents, spouse, job - yet it’s always an inside job. Know that you did the best you could with the information you had at the time. Look how powerful you were to have created what you did - even if you don’t like that. Now you can use your power and your increased awareness to create something different if that’s what you want. Isn’t that cool!
So, what is your relationship status? Are YOU the kind of friend or lover you’d want? Or have you taken on the identity of a lover scorned?
When money shows up at your door unexpectedly, complete with flowers, do you feel nervous, spend it as soon as possible in case it doesn’t stay, hide it away somewhere safe in case he doesn’t come again, think you don’t deserve it or……
…….celebrate, saying, “Yes please, I’ll have more of THAT!”