Living life to BE somewhere, not to GET somewhere!

September 19th, 2012 Posted in Creating Change, Intentions, Personal Reflections

I love being known as someone who makes things happen. In fact my identity has been firmly wrapped in my ability to manifest things fast. I can turn on a dime, move to another country, change careers, reinvent myself.

No hanging about for me! Oh no!

I know how to make things happen fast….. 

And I know about transitions.

Transitions mean living in the gap, living in the space between things, not knowing what’s next, or not knowing how or when the ‘next’ will happen. Making friends with the unknown, trusting divine timing. Trusting we are exactly where we need to be to move to the next step. Letting go of the when’s and how’s. This is where the loose ends get tied, the past is completed, and we prepare the ground for a smooth transition. It’s magical.

While I’ve experienced my share of powerful transitions, the option I’ve favored in the past is the lightening fast change - which is sometimes just perfect.

But here’s the thing….

Four years ago I got clear that living near water was a passion of mine and I decided to get curious about what might be possible. Immediately I attracted articles about houseboats, I was led to websites about houseboats, and a friend happened to mention she knew someone selling their houseboat. Within two weeks I had put an offer on a houseboat, and a week later I had sold my condo to the first person who looked at it. It was like magic. My Sell Your Home Faster audio program flew off the shelves.

And here’s something I haven’t said about that whole process.

It was stressful!

Yes, it was wonderful and exciting and everyone was inspired.

And it was stressful!

It all happened so fast, and before I knew it I was on the water. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I loved that feeling of being able to manifest my dream, and I loved being on the water.

Now, four years later, I’m ready for another expansion. I put my houseboat on the market and before I knew it, I had a signed contract and everything looked great. I’ve helped many others sell their homes fast, and here I was doing it again for myself.

But….I felt stressed.

I’ve had a recurring dream for as long as I can remember: I’m about to fly off somewhere. The plane is leaving in an hour and I’m still at home in a panic without my bags packed. My ‘I’m not ready’ dream - always variations on that theme - I had it again.

And against all odds, the sale fell apart. It was the weirdest thing.

My inner gremlin had a field day……”I thought you knew how to sell homes fast, what’s wrong with you?” he asked.

Once I got over that, I realized there must be something else that is supposed to be happening before I move and I started asking a more useful question: what am I here to learn right now?

And what I got back is this:

“This is a time of major transition for you, a major reinvention and you’re asking a lot. This is not a ‘now you see it, now you don’t', process. There are things you need to let go of, things to do in preparation, and ways of being if you’re really serious about what you are asking for. You say you want a spacious life, you want to feel more connected to spirit, you want to drop the busyness, you want to find YOUR way. There is more involved than selling your houseboat! Remember, you take yourself with you wherever you go!”

For the last few weeks I’ve felt my life was in limbo - when my place sold, I could get on with my life. I was in ‘waiting’ mode. Last weekend I made a decision not to wait any longer.  There are things I feel excited to put into motion now.  Getting ready!

Immediately I felt at peace, I’m sleeping better, I’m enjoying our wonderful Indian Summer and I’m feeling more of what I’ve been yearning for - be-ing more. Less busyness, more spaciousness, a deeper connection with Spirit, and a deep trust that I’m exactly where I need to be right now.

I don’t know what all this this means exactly, but I do see evidence that I’m being supported in this major transition and I’m being present to the now. I’m enjoying my life - no need to wait till I move to do what I want to do - the rest will take care of itself.

One of the things I remind clients A LOT, is that it’s not their job to figure out the hows. I’m listening!

I can now see that my intention to sell my home fast was actually in conflict with a bigger intention I have. I couldn’t move into my new life at high speed. There is not a hard edge between the past and future - it needs to be marinated in the now. There are things to do now that will make this transition a smooth one, and there are things I need to learn along the way so I can truly have this new life I’m asking for.

I’m reminded that I’m not living my life in order to GET somewhere.  I’m living my life in order to BE somewhere.

Is there something you are trying to push to make happen? How’s that working for you?

Wanna share? I’d love to hear from you.

  1. 17 Responses to “Living life to BE somewhere, not to GET somewhere!”

  2. By trisha on Sep 20, 2012

    I LOVE this Vicky!!! Sounds like some sweet aha moments are happening. I feel like this is a lesson I keep having to learn over and over in my own life. Thank you for sharing.

  3. By naomi kramer on Sep 20, 2012

    hi. loved this! as we are on the cusp of a new reality in our entry in a new jewish year…we are all about creating change in our lives. as i looked back last years journal entry i came upon goals i wanted for this year and lo and behold nothing shifted! need to start getting curious and asking questions…thanks for the leg up in the process.

  4. By najma on Sep 20, 2012

    Dear vicky,
    nice to hear from you after a long time.
    Iam trying to pushing many things at time.I know it’s not possible But still want a magic band for my ailing sister and my son to get married and myself to be a brave and energetic woman like you.thanks to listen me.
    Najma

  5. By Susan Tang on Sep 20, 2012

    Hi Vicky,

    I couldn’t help smiling while reading your blog especially the last part. Two Bible verses came to mind, Acts 17:28 (”For in Him we live and move and have our being…” and Psalm 127 (”Except the Lord built the house, they labour in vain that built it”). We believe by making a living or making things happen we are living life when only resting in Being IS living life. This realization comes to everyone one of us only when we are ready to explore the mystical side of our being. I’m so happy that you are questioning this. May I suggest an author who has made me aware of my mystical/spiritual self, his name is Joel Goldsmith and two of his books I keep with me always - The Thunder of Silence and Living By Grace. All his books are great inspirations. Hope you have the time to explore this. Namaste, Susan

  6. By Linda Smith on Sep 20, 2012

    Dear Vicky,
    This could not have come to me at a better time! Your experience so resonates with the angst I have been feeling, of forgetting to BE in my life as it is in this very moment.
    Pushing has only made me tired, cranky and feeling like a failure. Time to let up on myself and “allow” things to sort themselves into place, so that when the desired outcome arrives I will be ready and refreshed!
    Looking foward to hearing more about your grand new adventures. Thanks so much for sharing the difficult places as well as the easy ones.
    Namaste, Linda

  7. By Margaret on Sep 20, 2012

    Thank you, Vicky! I’ve been feeling adrift for the past few months and thinking that I needed to make things happen. Reading your words made me realize that even though I know there are big changes coming, they will come when the time is right and I’m ready!

    Butterfly blessings,
    Margaret

  8. By Vicky on Sep 20, 2012

    @Najma - it’s good to want the best for your loved ones, and they have their own journey - I’m sure you know this. When you focus on what you want and allow that to unfold you’ll create that in it’s own time, and that will impact your loved ones too.

    Oh, and by the way - you are already brave and energetic. Perhaps some of that is hiding, but it’s there. Focus on where you’re brave and energetic now - rather than where you’re not -you’ll attract more of it. Thanks for your comment.

  9. By Vicky on Sep 20, 2012

    @Linda, I know that angst! So true about making ourselves feel like a failure - why do we do that to ourselves. Certainly don’t need anyone else giving us a hard time when we do such a good job of that ourselves:-)

    Thanks everyone for your comments - love to see you here.

  10. By Yasha on Sep 20, 2012

    So true - BEing so often feels like waiting! I am also in a transition time so your words are very helpful to me today. I had been very frustrated that nothing seemed to be moving - even though I wasn’t really sure where I wanted it to move. I found this quote on Facebook one day and it has become my mantra: “When nothing is sure, everything is possible.”
    Whenever I feel myself getting impatient, I remind myself of all the possibilities…

  11. By Vicky on Sep 20, 2012

    @Yasha - love that quote - thank you for sharing it.

  12. By Sharito on Sep 20, 2012

    Vicky, I know exactly how you feel! I had plans for building and living on this one particular piece of land, for years. I leased the land for a year in April,while the papers were being drawn up for change of ownership. In Mexico everything moves very slowly and it has been a good lesson for me to slow down and let things unfold naturally. Well guess what the papers were made but to someone elses name! Oh yeah, my first reaction was incredulous and anger, but it didn’t last long. I know EVERYTHING happens for a reason. For some reason beyond my understanding, that land is not for me. Panic,no, I am sure the right doors will open for me at just the right time. I’m in a holding pattern and saving money for the opportunity that will present itsself.I love your blog,and it always strikes a cord in my life. Thank you Vicky for your willingness to share. Love and blessings, Sharito

  13. By Vicky on Sep 20, 2012

    @Sharito - it makes life so much easier when we know there are bigger plans afoot! Plans we have no idea about. Thanks for sharing your story here. I know the perfect opportunity will come - we are often tested!

  14. By Linda on Sep 21, 2012

    Well Vicky you hit me square between the eyes with this one. My life is in limbo for several reasons, none of which I can control - nor should I. But I’ve been edgy beyond belief and angry that my desires are more than a little frustrated. Reading what you’ve written and what others have said brought it all home and just “sat me down” if you know what I mean, and the Spirit said, “Stop! Wait! Learn! Love! Live Now! See the treasures here!”
    Thanks Vicky.
    Linda

  15. By Vicky on Sep 21, 2012

    @Linda….woo hoo. That sounds like way more fun! Thanks for dropping in!

  16. By Vicky on Sep 21, 2012

    Today I planted pansies -instead of pushing to get out of here….duh! I’m living in paradise here on the river - good to be fully enjoying it.

  17. By Dallys on Sep 22, 2012

    A thousand thankyous, Vicky! Your articles have that heaven-sent feeling of being the right thing at the right time, but this one takes the prize. A timely reminder that being happy where you are NOW will bring changes in Divine time and order where all the pushing, striving and the dreaded “making things happen” never will.

    No more living in limbo, time for living right here, right now, and appreciating all the love, beauty and abundance already in my life!

  18. By Vicky on Sep 23, 2012

    Glad this worked for you Dallys - living in the present - that’s all we have - and it seems like we need to keep reminding ourselves :-)
    Love, Vicky

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