10 Feng Shui Valentines Day Tips for Romance and Passion

February 11th, 2010 Posted in Clutter Busting, Feng Shui Tips, Love & Relationships

I know for sure that in the final analysis of our lives - when the to-do lists are no more, when the frenzy is finished, when our e-mail boxes are empty - the only thing that will have any lasting value is whether we’ve loved others and whether they’ve loved us. – Oprah Winfrey

Whether you’re in a relationship, or ready to attract a new one, these tips will support you setting the scene for romance and passion on this Valentine’s Day.

1. Create an inviting sanctuary
What is your bedroom saying? Does it reflect who you are, and set the scene for the relationship you want, or is it a room you don’t think too much about because you only sleep - or try to sleep there? Stand at the door as if you’ve never seen this room before. Does it say “come hither” or does it say “go away”?

2. Make your bed the primary feature
What’s in your bedroom with you? Exercise equipment, desk, computer or television? This energy will conflict with the purpose of the bedroom - serenity, romance and renewal. If you really have to have some of these things in there, use a screen to separate the different functions.

3. Position your bed
The ideal bed position is as far away from the door as possible, and with a clear view of the door from where you lie. If you cannot see the door easily, this will set up an unconscious vulnerability that will affect the quality of your sleep and other aspects of your life. A solid headboard will support a strong relationship.

4. Who are you sleeping with?
Your bed holds the energy of anyone who has slept in it. When a long term relationship ends or if ther has been serious illness or death, support the beginning of a new life by replacing your bed. Remove any associations with past partners. Let go of anything you don’t want to bring into your life or a relationship. And, considering you spend a third of your life in bed, invest in the best possible.

5. Don’t let Clutter Bog You Down!
Clutter affects all areas of your life more than anything else, and your bedroom is no exception. Clutter here will affect your health, your prosperity, and both existing and potential relationships. Clutter will prevent you from creating your dreams.

Don’t underestimate the importance of clearing your closet. Clients report this gives them an immediate increase in energy and improved feelings about themselves. Give away anything that doesn’t make you feel your best.

Clutter could be physical clutter, or unresolved issues with your partner or an ex partner.

Here are some places to start:

• Remove anything from under your bed: ideally you have a good flow of energy around and under your bed. Do not sleep on top of blocked energy. Not good!
• Remove old or broken furniture
• Remove clock radios from within 8 feet of your head. These will be emitting EMFs directly to your brain tissue while you’re at your most vulnerable and for many hours. Use a Home Harmonizer to protect yourself from the electrics you’re surrounded by as you sleep. Place a Universal chip on your cell phone, cordless phone or hairdryer.
• Remove any symbols of past relationships and any pictures of children - they do not belong in your boudoir.
• Any clothes lying around? Put them away.
• Avoid having a cat litter box in your bedroom!
• Clear out any bedside tables or drawers, and closets and dressers.
• Let go of any resentment - it will be keeping you tied to the last person you probably want to be tied to!

6. Get a fresh perspective on your art
Artwork is a powerful enhancement in creating your life. If you’re a single woman, having a picture of a lonely woman walking along the beach will not be helping you attract someone new in your life. Make sure your art is sending the right messages. What represents romance to you? Place pairs of things or images of pairs in your bedroom and relationship areas of your home. Check where they are here.

7. Make space for a relationship
Make space in your closet and your bathroom for the person who’s coming into your life. Make sure there’s a second pillow on the bed. Set your bedroom up for two if you want to create a relationship. Have matching bedside tables and lamps so your relationship is equal. And for those of you who have your bed filled with stuffed animals…. you also need to make space for a partner if that’s what you’d like.

8. Nurture your number one relationship - the one with yourself
Are you being the person your ideal partner or your existing partner will fall in love with? Are you fully expressing your unique gifts? Nurture yourself with your favorite scented candles, music and sensual fabrics. And make space for what most brings you joy - and especially if your partner is into other things. Nurture those things that make you unique and make sure you continue making space for them once you’re in a relationship. Don’t go disappearing on your partner!

9. In the heat of love, what are the things you allow yourself to believe about yourself?
That you are beautiful, desirable, treasured? You are still that person. Treat yourself as the god or goddess you are, the one your partner falls (or fell) in love with.

10. Always, and especially on Valentines Day, celebrate the love you have in your life, whether its with a partner, friends or family.

Remember. Whatever you focus on expands. If you would like to focus on attracting the relationship of your dreams whether a new one or an improved one, make good choices about where you focus your attention. Are you focused on the good in yourself and your partner, or are you focused on what isn’t quite ‘right’?

 If you’d like help to turn your bedroom or any room into a nurturing, inspiring space, rather than one that works against you, come join me in creating passion, purpose and prosperity now!

As always, I’d love to hear what you’re making space for.