There's no place to hide from Feng Shui - even temporarily

 

I once heard this definition of extroverts and introverts: Extroverts process information and issues by talking with others. Introverts do so by going within.

I am definitely an introvert, and have set my life up so as to have a lot of time and space to myself. This is how I function best. I know what feeds my soul and I also know when I don’t do these things everything in my life is affected.

Sometimes I need a reminder of the importance of these things.

During my visit to New Zealand recently, I had occasion to stay with a family member who was so excited to see me, she wanted to spend lots of time with me and include me in every cup of tea. She was being a good hostess – she is also an extrovert.

So, where she gained energy I was fast losing it. I did have some space for myself, but not enough. I assumed that a week like this was fine. I also didn’t fully unpack my suitcase, partly because there wasn’t anywhere to put everything, but also, I thought – it’s only for a few days.

I know the effect of being surrounded by clutter, and I know I need lots of space – physical and emotional. I know the effect of tolerating things that bug me. I also know that sometimes in the past it has seemed like too much trouble to act on my needs.

One of the big things I learned on this trip is that it DOES matter. Even temporary situations affect me. I learned there is no room for unconsciousness around my environment – there is no place to hide. I learned I need to respect my being an introvert. It’s part of what makes me unique. It’s part of how I express myself and give myself to others. And when I don’t respect this aspect of myself, part of me shuts down and everyone misses out. 

When I look back on my time in New Zealand, the visit that was most successful was with a friend who is an author and also an introvert. He made sure he had time to himself, which also gave me space.

I eventually took care of my needs by finding a Bed and Breakfast to stay in for my last week. With great good fortune the owner was going out of town, so I had her whole, huge, sunny house to myself. I unpacked my suitcase, made my room inviting, and so created an environment that supported me. Everything looked different from this place, and from there it was a lot easier to create a balance between visiting and quiet time.

The Feng Shui in your life is about more than just your environment. When you don’t get your needs met physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, your energy is  blocked and this will stop the flow of prosperity, creativity, relationships in your life and will prevent you from being all you can be. Your very life energy is affected.

• Is anything blocking the flow of energy in your life right now?
• Where are you cluttering up your life, emotionally, physically, spiritually?
• Is there anything in your life you are telling yourself is only temporary?
• What would it take to make a change now?
• What do you know, but need to remind yourself about in terms of your needs?
• As an extrovert, or an introvert, what feeds your soul? Are you incorporating that in your life?
• Visits with family are often the most challenging in terms of being ourselves. How do you take care of your needs while with your family?
• When you are thrown into an unfamiliar situation, what happens? Do you make sure your needs are met or do you let them slide? What do you tell yourself?
• Do you have a situation coming up – maybe people coming to stay, maybe you visiting someone – where you can begin to plan ways to have your needs met?
• In your home, or when you are in a temporary situation, what can you do to make a sanctuary for yourself? What can you place in your environment to give you a  feeling of belonging? 
  

Some of my clients have found a way to create a sense of place when traveling. They've gathered a collection of things that have significance for them. When they travel they place them on the bedside table or somewhere they will feel their energy.

Some people have a favorite throw or they might take their own pillow with them. Don’t forget the power of journaling. Keeping up this practice will give you clarity and space.

In Feng Shui, the intention is to create a flow of energy in your environment to support you in creating the life of your dreams. A life that flows and is easy and where you can be your authentic self. Your environment either supports you or drains you. By paying attention to all your environments you will create an environment of success for yourself.

 

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